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Episode: 3971
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Title: HPR3971: RERERE: How to make friends.
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Source: https://hub.hackerpublicradio.org/ccdn.php?filename=/eps/hpr3971/hpr3971.mp3
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Transcribed: 2025-10-25 18:10:00
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This is Hacker Public Radio Episode 3,971 from Monday the 23rd of October 2023.
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Today's show is entitled Ari Ari Ari how to make friends.
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It is hosted by some guy on the internet and is about 36 minutes long.
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It carries an explicit flag.
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The summary is scotty and mugs chat with friends about how to make friends on the internet.
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Hello and welcome to another episode of Hacker Public Radio.
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I'm your host, some guy on the internet, also known as Scotty.
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Today I'll be speaking with a couple of friends over on Smite
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and we're going to be discussing the topic how to make friends
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internet addition. Why don't you guys introduce yourselves.
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My name is Chase. I've been playing games online for heck 20 years.
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Like you said, we're in the middle of playing Smite with some friends right now.
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And Daddy, go ahead.
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You go ahead, Daddy. You go first. I'll go ahead.
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I'm Daddy Kakes. I do have been playing games online for about 20 years and made some really great friends.
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I am Marcelo and I've been gaming. I'm 49 so I've been gaming since I was about 18 years old.
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I'm just going to do the math on that.
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Well it's a pleasure to have you all on the platform.
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And with our wonderful topic at hand, how do you make friends?
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So who wants to step up to the plate first and discussing what qualifies as a friend
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and how do you determine that a person meets that qualification?
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I'll go ahead and start. So it's funny because it kind of changes as you get older, I think.
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But when I was younger, I used to play with my friends from school, stuff like that.
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Well now I'm 35 years old. I have a job. I work 60 hours a week.
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So I don't really have this friends anymore. I mean, I still like them, but I just never see them.
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So they were my gaming partners and now it's strangers like you.
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And you just meet them just by playing games and you know, you have a good game and you want to
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have another good game. So you're like, let me invite this person, you know, my friends list
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are something and then it just kind of starts something and then they bring their friends.
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So it's kind of a snowball. You know, or if you're in a game and people are goofing around
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and it's just something different and you have fun and you send them an invite, it really just kind
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of figures like that for me. I don't really go out looking. Yeah. Anyone else? That was pretty good.
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I like that. Yeah. I agree with a lot of that. You know, usually it's it starts with somebody
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who plays really well in a game and has a sense of humor a lot of the times. You just kind of build
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on that in a gaming together, talking like we have been tonight getting to know one each other
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and playing really well together. And everybody having a good team attitude is extremely important,
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not playing like a douche. I don't know about you guys, but I have three kids. You guys have kids?
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Yeah. I have two kids. So I can be a kid to the park, right? You can you can make friends with
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the other other parents. Yeah. But as far as like if you don't have some type of vice or some type
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of way to do it, it's not like when you're a kid, you can just go, right? Oh, what just happened?
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All right. So where we just left off, someone was discussing having kids at the park.
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Oh, yeah, that was me. I think I think that was pretty much all I wanted to add is that you need
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something to kind of be the mediator between you, make it a new friend and games work out great.
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You guys brought up some very interesting points there, some nice dynamics. What I heard that I
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want to dig deeper on. One, we talked about age being one of the factors, you know, when you're younger,
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and more active, you're out and about. There's more opportunities to have friends. And as you get older,
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life, your priorities change, your choices of friends may change.
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Also heard about, you know, having children and how children can be sort of like an ice breaker
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into engagement with others. So am I right on that? Yeah. And I'd say with the kids, kind of,
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you know, things have changed in the last 20 years. And, you know, most part people play games nowadays.
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It's just people play games. So it's weird because like my online friends have, most of my online
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friends are family, like my son plays, my other son plays, my wife plays, my mother plays.
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You know, so it's now it's kind of transition to, hey, I'm leave friends. I mean, I guess online
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which is kind of weird. But it just seems like that's kind of the age nowadays. You know, back in the day,
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you know, my dad, he ain't going to play a game. His dad, no way. They weren't going to play games.
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So I think it's just changing over time. That's very true. Yeah. Absolutely.
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I do believe that it has changed as far as the generations because I mean, I would, I would think
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let's say 60 years ago, how human beings used to interact mostly built around the job,
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right? Like everything that you're doing is happening on the job. And then you, of course,
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have meetups and things outside of the job. And you just kind of roll with that. As technology
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started getting added to the playing field, suddenly dating transition from being, you know,
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the usual school or work as your dating pool to now online is a part of the dating pool.
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And the same for friendship as well. You can now expand your reach to more individuals.
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So naturally, people just started welcoming it. And then one of the other things I want to point
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out, there was all the stranger danger back in the day as well, right? Like don't talk to strangers,
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all that kind of stuff that we used to kind of promote. Now today, we talk to strangers every
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single day on the internet. But to touch on that real quick. So I think you bring up a good point.
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So stranger danger, right? I think that it's kind of been a negative thing as well.
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You know, if we didn't have computers and online, kids would be out playing in their neighborhoods,
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riding their bikes, things like that. So I think it's kind of taken a toll on the kids. I mean,
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my kids are not in an eight. They can one can ride a bike kind of. The other one can't. It doesn't
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want to learn. They're not big into sports. Not saying ever kids like that. But it's definitely
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different. And then when you do events, you know, everybody's got this feeling that no place is
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safe, but it might just be from everybody, you know, staying home. No one goes out. No one does
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anything. You know, so I think there's two sides. So do you believe in your life when you make
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friends with others and what you observe from others? Do you believe that it's more dangerous
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to make friends today than it was, let's say, 20, 30 years ago? I don't think it's more dangerous.
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I think that, you know, I think people just don't want to go out of their way. It's easier
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just to get online and play a couple of games and get off and not have to deal with anything,
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to be honest. Just convenient. Yeah. I do that. So what about you, Nadi, being the one of the
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females in the conversation, I don't know if mugs can hear us or not. What do you feel about
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making? Okay. So mugs is still here. What do you feel, Nadi? Is it more dangerous for you to make
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friends as a female, rather online or offline? Being a woman, there's always a certain amount
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of risk with people online and in person. You know, unfortunately, we live in a very dangerous
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world. And so you just got to kind of, I don't know, feel people out a little bit to get a bad feeling,
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block a much easier to block them online than it is to block somebody in person. I'm glad you
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brought that up because it does show that the online relationship does have qualities that the
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real life relationship does not. So in a work setting or just a social setting in real life,
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if someone becomes obnoxious and won't leave you alone, you can't really just mute them.
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Whereas online, you know, you have controls at your fingertips, things you can do to well make
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your experience better. Yeah. And it's really, you know, in person, some people just invade your space
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and in appropriate ways. You know, you don't have that online. If you somebody's messaging you
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constantly and bugging you, just block them, delete them, you know, off your friend list. It's
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no big deal. But in person, you can't do those kinds of things. And in person, you don't meet
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them to the abyss. Yeah. But the other thing though in person, you don't meet people from halfway
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across the world. Like I have an entire group of people that I game with that are in Canada,
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they're all French Canadian. You know, I never would have met them in person because I've never
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really left the States. So that's got that to consider too. That's one benefit of meeting people
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online. Yeah, when I discussed this with Mugs the other day, we had a little joke. I asked her if
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she, you know, had to ban people because one of the most common ones is when guys find out
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you're a woman, it is almost like this instant, hey, you want to go out, you know, nonstop
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heading on your kind of thing. It happens. Yeah. I, you know, people process type of lines all the time.
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And a lot of times that it is hard to press people online or in person when you're a woman,
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because you just never know somebody's intentions. No, I'm going to ask the guys here about this.
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I mean, I kind of feel like I know the answer, but it's fair to always ask you guys have any trouble
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with women nonstop hitting on you and, you know, constantly. Oh, I can't keep them off of me.
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It's like all day. Nope. I'm a 90s guy. So things are way different back then.
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If I could say one, one thing just to touch upon what you were talking about before is that,
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you know, when you get a feel for someone, you can decide if they're compatible with you. You
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know, it doesn't have to be a relationship. I think having online friends and just reading people
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online that kind of skill that that that most of us take for granted of feeling people out.
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That's going to get soft because we're not getting a feel for people in the real world. I think
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that's a very valid point. That's going to get soft. And I think that gets worse. I mean,
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it doesn't have to be messy in it. I agree. I agree with that. Yeah. Because there are people that
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are just kind of shut in and don't leave their houses. Don't go out and have groceries delivered.
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You know, and their only contact is with other people online. And that's not entirely healthy either.
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Yeah, it might be a little bit safer. But I really don't think that that's healthy. We're social
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creatures. We need to get out. We need to go and engage in activities and be around other people.
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I want to challenge that thought for just a second here, just to see how interesting this topic
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can become. So you say that the skill of being able to, you know, feel someone out. Kind of
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tell rather not this is an individual you want to continue a relationship with or or even build
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a relationship with as a friend. We may lose or have that skill diminish because we've taken
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our lives more online than, you know, past years. I would argue that in ways because we're
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exposed to more cultures, more ways of life, it has broadened our horizons and allowed us to
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experience more. And that has made us benefit. We accept more now because we were exposed to more.
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Now that that's a two-sided coin. Of course, we're exposed to a lot of bad as well. But I don't,
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I don't believe we lost the skill. We're just applying the skill in a different area.
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I can support that idea that we lose skills on behalf of the fact that as you grow in school and
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you see your friends and you mix with people, you learn body language to be really good readers
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about body language. And you don't have any of that online. None. Only what they say is truth.
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What they say in the mic, you have to trust is truth. And somebody can tell you, oh yeah,
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and be crossing their eyeballs. You don't know that. Cannot see the body language. And by reading
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body language, it is a thing that you do get better at, you sharpen it, you know, it is a skill.
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And that can be lost via the net. I'm glad you chimed and see this, this is excellent.
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This is a point I would have never have thought of. She brought it up. It's fantastic. And I believe
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she's 100% correct. There's all these little things that we don't necessarily see during the
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conversation. And when you're face to face, you don't, not only are you reading body language,
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you're also, I don't know about everybody, everybody's like this, but I'm very much
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reading the energy of people, you know, and just if something's off, then, you know, you feel it.
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And you know, well, there is a lot to be said for eye contact. That's you. Yeah, I agree.
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So you're saying that you sort of draw from the vibes of the person after giving off sort of
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a negative energy or a very static, harmful sort of energy, something that irritates you,
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you kind of pick up on that and make a determination off of that. Yes, I do that a lot actually.
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It is huge. I can agree with that. I know not everybody's like that, but sometimes it's
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developed from the way you've grown up. Do you think that that skill can be applied online?
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You can hear a tone. A tone sometimes, like one guy I gained with, just, I don't know, he was just
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kind of strange to me and then come to find out. Later, he was arrested. They found his hard drive
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full of, he was running a server, you know, so I mean, it does translate to online. It does,
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but it's filtered. Agreed. Yeah, I agree with both of those points. With that situation,
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I'm going to bring up an infamous individual from the past, Ted Bundy.
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A lot of people met him and thought that he was just your everyday average guy. In fact,
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I mean, he could have been a role model to many and this is meeting him in person talking to him
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and just even after he was arrested and in jail, people who met him in jail still felt like he
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was a very likable guy, even after knowing what he'd done. But how many times have we heard that
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about serial killers or, you know, people who couldn't have children? Oh, it was just a nice,
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normal guy who lived down the street, you know, and they didn't get any bad feelings and weren't
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really paying attention. And that later it turns out their serial killers like Dumber,
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same thing, the night stocker, look at how many women approached him after he was arrested
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and convicted. He had girlfriends like, you know, well, that is true, but you still can lose
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those skills that you acquire and have brushed up and sharpened over say 10 years. You can
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lose some of that when you're not out in mixing with looking eye to eye, you still can lose some
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of that. But again, even if you do because you're spending all your time on the computer and you
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have virtual friends, so to speak, it's real people, but they're online. If they are, they
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they usually do not have your address or personal information, those type things. So online does have
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a safety net there. The serial killer does not know where you live or know you personally.
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But online friends are also different than normal friends. And what I mean is like,
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if I went to school with someone for 12 years and let's just say I didn't see him for two weeks,
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I know I'm going to see him again and talk to him and hang out. But online, you know, I might talk
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to mugs every day, you know, obviously she's my mother, but if she wasn't, I might talk to her every day
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and then she stops playing smite and plays, you know, who knows Halo and it is banish. Like
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when friends in real life don't really tend to do that, it's like, well, more of a slow phase
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and online, they can just hoof. It's kind of, you know, crazy. But also online, you don't know
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if somebody you're talking to is somebody you know in your real life, just in passing. Yeah,
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I mean, that kind of thing happens all the time. Somebody could be targeting you through
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your online gaming accounts. And you might not realize it because you're not close to that person.
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You've only met them maybe in the workplace or a friend of a friend or something like that.
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And you've given enough detail about yourself for them to find you online. And you might not
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realize that they're targeting you and that you know that you've met them. That's very true.
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I'd like to introduce a couple of other elements here. One, I like to introduce the military
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where we have friends and family and lots of loved ones who are here one moment and then they're
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they're gone away for long periods of time the next moment. Yeah. And how we have to maintain
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that relationship with them. I'd also like to introduce long distance relationships. Even before
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the internet, we used to farm relationships with people and then expand that relationship across
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states or even countries. How do you guys feel is it with those bits of evidence that even there
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wasn't the internet, we still managed to maintain real relationships with other individuals that we
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could not see every day. Well, I think you have touched on that when he said in real life,
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that happens, but it's more phased. Yeah. It's not a cut quick. I'm going on some other game
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who knows for that person. Right. I mean, like in a lot of times it's this family like, for example,
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my cousin Joey went in the military for a couple of years and I didn't talk to him every day like
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when he when he was back home, you know, I talked to him every now and then, but when he went in
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the military, I probably went two years without talking to him. And he lived in the same state
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not far away. But when he came back, you know, it was like, hey, welcome back, you know, like we knew
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we were going to see each other again. Same thing with friends. It's just different.
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You know, it's hard to kind of explain that, but it's just it's just different. You feel almost
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like you have a commitment in real life versus digital life, I guess. One of the things that
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that plays really heavily nowadays and sort of keeping up with people and keeping in contact
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as social media, you know, Facebook is a huge way of keeping up with people that aren't part of
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your everyday life. In military, a lot of times, you know, there's space time or WhatsApp or
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you're communicating through sending packages and things like that to them. There's so many
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different ways to contact people and stay in touch with people versus, you know, back in the 90s.
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We didn't have cell phones, you know, we didn't have social media. A lot of people didn't even have
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computers and internet in the 80s and 90s. I think it's harder to lose touch. Let me turn it around
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a little bit. We discuss making friends. Now let's discuss what what is it that makes a person
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not a friend? So you meet an individual rather online or in person. What is it that an individual
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does that triggers your ability to say, nope, not this guy or not her? I think one of the weird
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things about online friends is it's very easy. I might play one game with you, right? My
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place might have a good game and I friend you. I'm your friend all of a sudden, right? One game
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and I'm your friend. I played with you for 20 minutes and I'm your buddy. And then you play
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with, yeah, right. And then you play with them for 20 more minutes. You're like, oh, this guy's
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really a jerk. He has a bad attitude. What was I thinking? Okay. And now you got to, you know,
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weasel out of it somehow. Hey, I got to get offline. Whatever. Then you block them. Whatever.
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But it's just it is kind of interesting how that rules out. Well, I can also say I lose friends
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on the internet because I get mad when we lose. And then I get grumpy and I can understand,
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certainly understand people don't like that, you know? Well, it also kind of goes back to what we're
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talking about earlier. Like he said, you know, you play a game with somebody you friend requests them.
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You've known them for a few minutes. You play a couple more games and you go have voice chat now.
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And sometimes guys get it inappropriate. You've right off the bat. And that is one really quick
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way to lose a so called friends. Yeah, Mugs brought that one up the other day and I jokingly
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made a note after she said it. I was like, note to self. Do not hit on female the moment you
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learn she is a woman. It happens so much. She'd be surprised to be really shocked. Oh, I can
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believe it. There were other points that was brought up as well. There's the okay now that they
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understand you're a female. Now, if you do not let's say play nice with my with me hitting you
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and you flirting with you. If you don't play nice about this, suddenly you're the bad guy,
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right? You're you're this and you're that. And you know what? Let's now let's attack her. Let's go
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after her. She's bad. Mugs was telling me about how she chose to have a a neutral name that did not
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suggest sex at all. Like that name could be construed as anyone online because it just made it
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too difficult to have them, you know, any sort of a good time when people can easily identify you
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as a, you know, just instantly you're a woman kind of thing, you know? Yeah. And you know, my
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screen name now he takes the only reason why I mean, it's obviously good feminine. But it's a
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nickname from my gaming buddies. And that's the only reason why I use it. But no, I mean, I'm all
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for, you know, like a unisex screen tag like mugs, you know, because some men and boys can get
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incredibly inappropriate really fast. And I'm not saying all guys are like that on here because
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you guys obviously aren't, you know, we still continue to game with you guys. You guys haven't been
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inappropriate or rude in any way. You guys have actually been really, really polite. But there are
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some out there that are the complete opposite. Now for the, for the men here, I got to ask,
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when you come on the mic and others hear that you're a guy, do you experience any difference
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when they know that you're a guy? I mean, do women treat you any differently when they hear
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your voice online or do other guys approach you in a different manner when they hear your voice
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online. I don't think so. I don't think so because it's just so common. I don't think most gamers
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are guys. So it's just just the other dude. Now the women just, I just got to fight them off. But other
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than that, it's fine. I see my, my band, my block list, it's all females like 2000. Can't keep
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that. He's privately sending you messages.
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Yeah, there's no difference. What's that like, you know, to just not have any kind of fear or
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hesitation when you're out and about or gaming online that you don't have to put up any kind of
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guard. Um, I couldn't tell you what it's like. It's normal. You know, it's, uh, yeah.
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Well, I will, I will say this about it though, even though you don't necessarily have another guy
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that will instantly hit on you there or or or or a woman that would hit on you, there are other
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dynamics that we haven't really discussed because we don't have others here to speak for it. But
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I have spoken with individuals that were in in same sex relationships and they've they've exposed
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that, um, often in the past mostly when they would would speak about their relationships
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or their preferences, they would come under assault immediately from mostly guys. And it would,
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you know, they were being hit on by guys, but they were just being a verbally assaulted by guys.
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So they got attention just not not that affectionate kind of attention. It was more, more assault.
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I was just to say, unfortunately, um, truth is, this is a lot of guys are homophobic, you know,
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that's just something we live with what we deal with. Unfortunately, I will add to that people
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don't want to hear about your sexual preference, rather you are same sex or, yeah, I mean,
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why do we have to hear about on either way, any slide?
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Mm-hmm. I agree. So one of one of the things that I would introduce in this situation never
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mind the person's preferences, but the attacking, if if there is any difference or there's a
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conversation of any kind where it doesn't have to be the sexual preference, it could be a football
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team, for instance, or just anything, you know, you like dodge, I like forward that kind of thing.
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What's what's with the aggression because there's a difference?
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Well, I'll be 100% honest. You know, I'd say in the last eight years, I mean, I've seen,
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you know, you know, people that are gay, lesbian, trans, whatever. And I've never seen them attacked
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and I'm being wholeheartedly honest. I have never seen anybody attack. I feel like, you know,
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maybe they feel like they're being attacked, but I personally have never witnessed that.
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You know, so I can't really speak to it. I mean, I honestly have never encountered it.
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Well, as like he said, you know, forward versus dodge, people get really aggressive and competitive
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and cross lines just over something as simple as that. And I don't understand it. It's like, okay,
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you like forward that person like dodge, who cares? You know, it's not something to get aggressive
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or violent or be crappy to another person over. You know, your preference, it doesn't matter.
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Do you think the anonymity plays a part in it? You know, your online, your real identity is not
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in jeopardy. So if you behave in a certain way, it's not going to stain your perfect reputation
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in real life kind of thing. I used to be the case and people, you know, said, oh, that's what the
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internet was invented for us. You could bash people anonymously. But now we're seeing people
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getting revealed publicly on social media for things like that, which is a good thing, I think.
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I mean, if you're going to be a crappy person, you know, it should be put out there,
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especially if you're attacking people. I would actually explain that a little more clearly,
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because I don't want to read into that. But could you elaborate more on what you mean by
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you should be put out there? Well, I mean, if you're anonymously attacking people online,
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cyber bullying, things of that nature, I think that, yeah, that maybe it shouldn't be put out
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there on social media. We're seeing, you know, the so-called Karen's revealed and things like that.
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People are losing their jobs or things that they said online, you know, I think it's kind of
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two-fold too, man. Like, yes, okay, let's say they get attacked, but also like, I feel like I have
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to walk on egg shells when I know that something someone is, you know, different or has different
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whatever, you know, it puts pressure on me because now I'm on my tippy toes the whole time on what
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I'm saying and how I'm talking. Well, I don't say nobody has the right to advertise
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their sexual preference unless they're with people that they know really well and it's a close friend
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and you know that you can divulge your personal stuff to that person. If you don't have that
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connection, you are out of line bringing up your sexual preferences or even sex, really. You know,
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a small joke when you know the people are well enough is fine here and there, but no, I don't feel
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it has any business being brought up in a group of players. 30 years ago, sexual preference,
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money, religion, politics, politics, all of what you just said was applied to those things. You know,
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you don't bring them up unless you're in like company or you're with people close to you. Those
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discussions were all kind of taboo and unless you really knew the people and knew what their
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preferences were and it didn't just apply to their sexual preference that it applied to
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whether we're public inter-democrat or you know their Christian or Catholic or how much money
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they made. All of those things that used to it used to be rude to talk about with people.
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Their business was their business but now it's all out there. It's a good topic because what he
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brought up like what we're talking about is, you know, if I've known you for, you know, say three
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days, you know, maybe that's longer than some people know people on the internet. You might know
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someone for like we said one, two matches. So we really don't even know these people and now we're,
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you know, like you said, making jokes or who knows what we're saying and we don't know our
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audience at all. But I think also people get too easily offended over things. Yes, I agree.
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Uh-oh. It wasn't like that. You know, I'm Gen X. It wasn't like that then. You know,
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if you had a problem with somebody, you just avoided them. You moved on. You didn't attack them
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and berate it. There's this feeling of hypersensitivity that's been taking place.
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And one of the issues that I want to bring up, whenever an individual felt like they've been
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wronged, there's kind of like this movement that has been, they call it cancel culture, if you will.
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Yeah. So it's like this need to raise an army and destroy on behalf of someone else's hurt feelings.
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Yeah. I remember, well, I'm pretty sure all of us, all of us has heard about, read about or
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seen movies based on events that took place long a long time ago and like, you know, somewhere
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out in Europe and England or whatever, where people would scrap on entire suits of metal,
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you know, basically a sedan worth of metal. And for the honor of their king or a fair maiden,
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or whoever, run down the street with the sword and cleave someone to death. Yeah. How is that
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any different today online when, well, somebody's honor was tarnished to, you know, get the army.
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Let's go, you know, we're on foot now. We got to go take someone out.
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I would say it's a very good point, a good, good thought process, but this isn't, you know, the
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1600, 1700, 1800s anymore, you know, we're more civilized, you know, we're not going to get the
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beat brawler stick out and start going to town. You know, there's a way that we should do and
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don't do things. I think that's kind of, you know, where, where evolution has went to and
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we're trying to backpedal a little bit. Now, where, where it used to be, there was a lot of
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physical because that's just the way they, they did it back then, you know, you, you strap on
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the long knives and you went to work. Today, though we're not physically attacking a person,
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I want you to stop and think about the impact of imagine a guy who spent his entire life
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building a career. He's made it to just this very wonderful place in life and things are going
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great. He's able to see his kids grow up and somebody pulled a tweet from 10 years ago,
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used it to crash his entire career. Now, he's lost his job. He's at an age where it's not going to
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be easy to transition. And because the everything's online is kind of like permanent,
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there's no place he can really go where people will not have heard of this thing that's being
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thrown around. And now it's not just, yeah, not, now it's not just his life. If he's the bread
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winner in the household, think about it. There's, there's other lives attached to his that are now
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negatively impacted. There's college funds and things that were once figured out that may no
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longer happen. So, do you guys really think that happens? I mean, it would have to be a pretty
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bad tweet like you have to find out that person was probably still is, or you'd have to find out
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that person actually murdered people back in the day. I mean, just a, but that's not what they're
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doing it over now, months. They're, they're doing it over so-called racist tweets and comments.
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No, they just have in heart, but I don't think, I don't think one tweet from that many years ago,
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you're going to lose your entire job. I think there has to be more come with it, more come out,
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more to the picture. I don't really shouldn't be that way. But unfortunately, we've seen it happen
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recently. Yeah, I don't think it's anything we can control. We've kind of let the government go
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to this. We've let society get to this culture. Yeah, you know, we let them rule everything
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right now. You know, we've seen it happen with multiple celebrities. So, when your internet
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friends come to you and say, Hey, there's a bad man over there. Let's get him. You're not ready
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to strap on the sword and in enough iron to look like a, a small sedan and run over there and
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cleave him. No, no, that's high school stuff where you all gang up for elementary or no,
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at any time. Anyway, the group you have here, we all just make our own minds up about, yeah,
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people always in that way. Well, guys, I know we're all ready to get back to playing some games.
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And if ever in the future, you guys are willing to have another conversation with me. I mean,
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I would love to do it. You've all been wonderful. I would like for you guys to introduce yourself
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once more before we exit the episode here. All right. Yeah, this was Chase. Again,
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appreciate the opportunity. I really enjoyed the conversation and looking forward to a few more
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games. This is mugs up. And I've been on another podcast, but very interesting conversation.
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This is Danny Kakes. You know, thank you for having me in two posts. I'm really great questions
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and situations stuff that I think really needs to be talked about. This is Ma Sialo. And thanks
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for the opportunity. Have a nice chat with you guys. And we're out of here. Thank you guys for
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